Breakup Doesn’t Mean You Can’t Make Up
While it’s normal and to be expected that you’re upset and even depressed about your breakup, there are a few positive things that you should realize about this period in your life. Even though you’re probably very lonely right now, there is always hope that you can get your ex back. Even though your ex might be telling you to move on, there is always hope. Even though it might appear that your ex is moving on, you really can get your ex back if that is the desire of your heart.
No matter how horrible things might appear right now, couples can and do get back together all the time. Couples that have been through vicious divorces and even affairs do manage to get back together. Couples where there was abuse do manage to heal and get back together when everyone might have said that there is no chance. What makes you think that your circumstances are so different than these couples? What makes you think that things are never going to change and that you can’t get your ex back? Where there is desire, there is hope.
If it is the desire of your heart to get back together with your ex then you need to use this time apart wisely. While you might be tempted to wallow in self-pity or want to give up at times, making the best use of this time alone to make yourself even better than you were before can help you to get your ex back. Engaging in self-destructive behavior like drinking heavily or even neglecting your body by not eating right or getting enough sleep isn’t going to help you to get your ex back more quickly. Now is the time to focus on yourself so you will be irresistible to your ex when the time does come to get them back.
Self Evaluation After The Breakup
Taking an honest look at your relationship and the part that you played in the downfall of your relationship is a good use of your time. This doesn’t mean that you need to be particularly harsh on yourself or that you have to saddle yourself with all the blame when it comes to the cause of your breakup but being honest with yourself and making the necessary changes in your life is a step in the right direction. If you had a temper and said things that you later wound up regretting, read a few books on anger management. If you spent too much time with friends instead of with your partner then maybe taking that time that you would normally spend with your friends and instead use it in a very different way to make yourself a better person.
A few ways that you can improve yourself might be to take up a hobby or enrole yourself in night class just for fun. Maybe there is something that interests you that you never really found the time for. Maybe you could learn a foreign language or get a certification in something that interests you. Even spending time jogging or working out at the gym can give you the self confidence to make a change in your life, change your habits and the results will be seen externally as well as internally.
Staying Positive After The Breakup
While you might be tempted to dwell upon the negative aspects of your breakup, think about what you can do with this time alone to improve yourself. If your ex had not broken up with you then you might never have this opportunity to make these changes and focus on yourself. It is time for you to be a little selfish and focus on making you the best person that you can be. Change is going to be important to your ex when they see you next, and they will be checking on you at some point, Why not ensure that there are some noticeable changes for your ex to see?
Do your best to keep negative and self-destructive feelings at bay while you do your best to make the changes necessary to get your ex back. If it truly is the desire of your heart to get your ex back then focus on that. Focus on the long term goal instead of being upset at how things are right now. Even if it appears that your ex has moved on, know that you really can win your ex back after your breakup no matter what the circumstances are.